Why Won't Girls Admit to Masturbating?

    Girls are raised to be more modest. If we talk about masturbating, we open ourselves up to harassment about it by immature guys (and other girls). We'd be giving you a mental image of us that we don't want you to have, and you probably don't deserve.

    Women can just as easily ask men, “Why are you so open about your masturbation habits?” I can tell you that the mental image of a guy whacking it just isn't that appealing. It's one of those societal double standards, but it is changing over time. More and more women every year are buying fun vibrating devices and talking about how they use them.

    And keep in mind, admitting to masturbation is not a universal thing even among men. I'm sure there are plenty of guys who are too shy to admit to their self-love—but not ones who write for this site.

Why Not? (Why Won't You Have Sex With Me?)

    Let's start by dispelling a myth. It's not because we don't like or don't want sex as much as men. Most women do.

    It's just that we're not willing to do stupid things in order to get it. Men don't have this “problem”—as the male editor of this site has pointed out, they think with their “other head” as soon as the possibility of sex presents itself. Women, however, aren't willing to subvert their higher thought faculties. We have to think about how this affects us in the long run. We have to ask ourselves, “How much does this guy really care about me? Does he have my interests in mind at all? Will I get a reputation as a slut?” If we feel like we'd be lowering ourselves to sleep with you, we're not going to do it.

    And frankly, if women are turning you down for sex, it's probably because you haven't turned them on at all. We aren't automatically aroused just because an interested man is around. Even if you're great looking, you have to show some personality and get the woman emotionally involved before sex will even be on the menu.

    Most women prefer a long-term relationship over a fling. That way we get emotional intimacy, which is a big part of what turns us on. Plus, it means sex is available when we want it, and we don't have to go looking. There are different strategies women use to get to that stage. Some will put out early on in order to draw you in. Others will wait to have sex until they're sure they've got you where they want you in a relationship. The only advice I can think of for men in this situation is, consider what you really want, and use the head with the brain in it once in a while.

How Much Does Size Really Matter?

    I have one answer that's short, and another that's longer, but less satisfying.

    The short answer is: Probably not as much as you think it does.

    The less satisfying answer is that size is somewhat important, but there are plenty of things that matter more. If you're a good cook or you have a charming personality, then congratulations, you've probably compensated for your small penis and then some, before you even reach the bedroom. And even in the bedroom, there are things you can (and should) do to please your girl that don't involve your wang at all.

    I did a little research on the statistics, in preparation for answering this question. I won't bore you by repeating them, but it turns out that the average measurements for penis length and girth are lower numbers than you might expect. Men tend to underestimate their own size relative to other men, so what you think of as small might not be small at all. The bottom line is, there are a lot more men in this world worrying about their penis size than there are women complaining about it.